I'm NOT Going to Breastfeed and My Child Will Turn Out Just Fine!

   I am not going to be your "typical" mom.

   Women are so freakin' judgemental and I'm entering a whole new level. Women judging moms or moms-to-be (and whether they have any children or not). It's just freakin' ridiculous and downright horrible. It's stressful enough going through all of the hormone changes, body changes, the scary realization you're about to be a mom (or the already day-to-day stressors of being a mom), etc. The last thing we need is unnecessary judgement.

   Most women want vaginal births and there are a ton of haters out there that hate on women who have had c-sections (whether the c-section was by choice or not). News flash, just b/c someone didn't push their baby out of their vag does not make them any less of a mother or a woman just like someone who has a baby via surrogacy or adopts isn't any less of a mother. I personally would prefer a c-section. I really don't want a vaginal birth but I've decided that I'm going to just push away my anxieties and go with the flow on this one. If I give birth vaginally, then I do, and if I end up having a c-section, then awesome. My sister and I were both born via c-section. B/c of the crappy annoying world of insurance, my mom had to push for 2 hours before getting a c-section with me. She just was not able to give birth vaginally and guess what? My sister and I both turned out pretty damn awesome if you ask me.

   And don't get me started on breastfeeding. I'm so sick of hearing "breast is best". It's not always the case people!!! How about if your baby is allergic to breast milk, then how can that possibly be best? If you want to breastfeed or have breastfed or are breastfeeding, good for you but I'm not going to be and I don't have to list the reasons why either. I am going to be feeding my daughter formula only. I swear when some people hear that you're going to not only bottle feed your baby but feed her formula, they act like you're killing your child or that the world is going to end. Get over it. My little girl will be just fine.

   I swear, everyone and their mother are just so freakin' critical, judgy, and opinionated these days, even if they haven't gone through the particular experience themselves! Everyone has every right to their own opinion but can we like stop all the pettiness please? Like people criticizing women's bodies when they're pregnant or their post pregnancy bodies. Whether you're in the process of growing your baby (ok, that sounds a little weird) or just gave birth to one (or two or three or more), you certainly don't need negativity about your body blasting your way at a hundred miles per hour. Warning: If you're going to negatively criticize my body during or post pregnancy, you might just earn yourself a punch to the face.

   On that note, I'll leave y'all with this:

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-Heather

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  1. I'm not a mom/not pregnant (but hope to be some day!) but I have to say AMEN! It's so ridiculous. I can't believe how judgmental people can be about breastfeeding. I only recently learned that some women are crazy judgey about even bottle feeding breast milk! I read someone's blog post about how she went to a breast feeding group's meeting and this woman told a story about how she saw a woman in the waiting room of a doctor's office bottle feeding her baby and she got up in her face and told her she was sticking a 'dildo' in her baby's mouth?! Like what?! So insane! Worry about your own baby, ugh! Maybe when I'm pregnant I'll feel differently, but right now I'm sure I'll get an epidural, I won't be upset if they have to induce labor (I know a lot of people don't want that), and I'd be just fine with a c section. I actually think I would prefer that too, but I also plan on just seeing what happens. Anyway, everyone has to do what's right for them and the judging is ridiculous!

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    1. Exactly! And I am all for epidurals and inductions lol. If the Doctor asks if I want one, yes please!

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  2. AMEN!!!! People always feel the need to pipe in where they aren't wanted or belonged. People can be so rude and hurtful, you know, mind your fkn business!

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    1. Agreed! I'm so sick of people bashing c-sections and preaching breastfeeding. You wouldn't believe the idiots on my pregnancy app.

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  4. LOVE this post!! Fed is Best, my formula baby is doing just fine & crawling at 7 months!

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    1. Thank you and so glad to hear that your little one is doing so well :)

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  5. That was the hardest thing I had to learn as a new mom. To let go of the haters and do my thing. I had a CS with my daughter because she was breech. I didn't feel comfortable trying to have them turn her and barring the prolonged hospital stay for preeclampsia, I feel like the recovery was easier than with a vaginal birth. And I've heard that from others.

    You will know what is best for you and your baby in all aspects: feeding, sleeping, general parenting. Yes, you will get all sorts of opinions. It's tough. I wish people realized that what others do has nothing to do with them. Wouldn't the Internet world especially be a lot kinder?

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    1. So far surprisingly I have done a pretty good job at keeping my emotions in check and ignoring the haters for now but I think it might be more of a struggle once my little girl is born. And yes, it would be awesome!

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